Understanding is the Key to any Relationship

To understand one another in a relationship is to "stand-under" by supporting and putting the relationship first. Did you notice my "word play" above? I flipped the word "understand" backwards to explain my point. The easiest example I often use is a table. If you want a relationship to work, then learn to stay humble by being a leg of the table. If the top of the table represents your relationship and all parties involved represents the legs of the table, then that top, which is the relationship will always take precedent over everyone involved.

Everyone involved will always put the relationship first and focus on holding it up. When pride kicks in and one of the legs decides to show off by being bossy, that table top, which is the relationship will begin to wobble and may fall if that prideful leg doesn't get back where it belongs. Now imagine if all parties involved think too highly of themselves and then move away from underneath the table top; the…

My Favorite Book - Chapter - Verse

Some of you have asked over and over again what my favorite verse of the Bible is. I've shared with some of you via emails or over the phone but I thought it would be better to answer it here to avoid getting the same question. First, I thought of answering this question on the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) page but I quickly realized the answer would be too long for such. Besides, I also needed to say "why" not just answering the question by giving my "favorite verse of the bible."

My favorite Book of the Bible I wish I can honestly say just one. It's a toss up between 4 books of the Bible.
Proverbs - You can't find better wisdom anywhere elseRomans - Helps me understand God's plan from the Old to the New TestamentEphesians - I call this the Christian lifeHebrews - This to me is the book of faith and hope. In many ways similar to both Romans and the book of Ephesians.
The reason this is a "toss up" is because the books of Romans, Ephesia…

The Unforgivable Sin

If you haven't done so yet, I strongly encourage you to first study and understand what the grace of God is before reading this piece. It will help you get a better picture of what this unforgivable sin really is in biblical terms. 
Christians sin but they do not practice sin. Let's say you can't swim and you are drowning. The Holy Spirit came to your aid with the lifeline that can save your life. You rejected it or you deliberately let go after first holding on. So sin against the Holy Spirit is like telling the Holy Spirit to "go kick rocks" when you're being offered the lifeline call grace. Why is this sin against the Holy Spirit different from "sin" you may ask. It is different because grabbing hold of the lifeline (grace) and "slipping off" is not the same as deliberately letting go. It's just like Peter did when he took his eyes off Jesus (Matthew 14:22-33). The cry for help by Peter represents repentance and the repentance was fo…

Who Do You Think You Are To Talk About Trump?

This question in the title is often asked of me with profanity especially from what I call the team with the Trump-ism movement but I have the clean version on this post's title as you can see. If speaking truth to power or stating a matter of fact in reality is considered "resentment" then have it your way folks. As long as I live, I will continue to "resent" or speak against bullying, divisiveness, discrimination, spread of hate and racism. Resentment of such actions does not mean I "hate" the "actors" or individuals involved.

I'm not telling you who to vote for because politics is corrupt. But don't go out of your way to defend the evil actions of those you voted for when you know better; and I do not have the godly right to do the same either. 

Book, chapter and verse may be at stake in our churches these days but basic human decency is what is at stake in our society today. This is one of the reasons we can't seem to be able t…

The Grace of God is NOT what you think

"Human forgiveness to me is mercy but God's  forgiveness is what I call Grace." - Abraham Inetianbor. God's forgiveness takes away sin, something that a human forgiveness cannot do. This is why it's called grace (Acts 4:12). Grace is a word that is used to describe an event that was planned from the beginning but took place starting from The Cross to The Right Hand of God (Ephesians 4:7-10). Showing love, mercy, forgiveness, or kindness to a fellow human being doesn't mean I gave them grace because bible context of grace is much bigger than just an unmerited favor. Yes, I can say they don't deserve it all I want but it's still not grace in bible context. The dictionary definition of grace is plastered everywhere and that's not what I'm here to talk about because that definition has left us in a place where we find ourselves trying to equate mortality with immortality (John 3:1-12). The Greek word Chari means grace, kindness and life. You can us…

No Condition is Permanent

In order for us to truly appreciate life and keep a level head through the good and the bad, we must understand that the difficulties in life is there for a reason. It is intended to make us better not bitter. When we go through a difficulty, it should make us stronger not weaker. So count it all joy like the scripture says because what seems so hard right now will look like a "warm up" for you in the future when you come across the same situation. And people are going to wonder why you are so calm under such pressure without knowing that this is not your first go around. 

True happiness in life is how you choose to see things. I try to find a reason to smile through a difficult situation but this doesn't mean I enjoy pain and suffering. I've learned to understand that there is no condition in life that is permanent - good or bad. Any situation you find yourself in, regardless, may change slightly or drastically. This is why you have to be always prepared for changes.…

From the Persecuted to the Persecutor?

On this July 4th; as we celebrate the independence day of the United States of America, it is also important for us all to acknowledge the simple fact that the word "united" seem to be missing from society, the Church and especially our country these days. Most Christians felt like they were being persecuted and decided it's better to take the low road for good instead of the greater good.
As Christians, the big questions we should be asking ourselves include:  Have we somehow gone from being the Persecuted to now the Persecutor? Are we harassing and forcing religion on people through our political beliefs? How low are we willing to go until we are satisfied?Is the day of judgement going to be at the United States Supreme Court? To persecute a group of people is to pursue them with harassing or oppressive treatment, especially because of their religious or political beliefs, ethnic or racial background, gender, and/or sexual orientation. Having a different belief from someo…

Democrats vs Republicans vs Christianity

It is clear that the division we have in America right now is mainly from the two major political views. Left, right, far left, far right, liberals, conservatives and whatever else you want to call it. The division is not mainly because of Trump's inability to bring people together or lead, it's primarily because people are sick and tired of the Republicans continued defense of abominable actions; actions that these same Republicans have highly condemned when it comes to other political figures that are of other parties. As I often say, wrong is wrong regardless of who is doing it, me included.

Both parties clearly have policies that contradicts the scriptures. So when we go all out to defend our political parties in a biblical manner especially claiming a "supreme court fight" is worth the evil we support and are actively engaged in, then we are not only setting ourselves up for disappointment but also fighting the wrong battle (John 18:36). I'm yet to understa…

If Slavery is a "Choice"....

Saying that years of slavery was a choice, is like saying:
1. Racism is a myth and never existed. Racism is fake news.
2. Rape is consensual and not a crime because it takes two to mingle.
3. Noose is a beautiful necklace that black people need to be grateful for.
4. "Black slaves" were actually White folks who choose to use black paint on their skin.
5. The Klans, like president Trump's dad, who was proud to be one, have the KKK initials because of their super kindness (kind-kinder-kindest) to black people.
6. President Trump's nick name is "Honest Trump" because he his the most truthful president we've ever known.
7. Kanye West's foolish view of slavery being a "choice" is a fact because all the black kids that were molested during slavery were all happy to have their innocence taken away from them. Separation of those families was a beautiful thing that they choose. All those that were killed while trying to escape truly enjoyed being beaten a…

Jesus The Immigrant

What does Jesus the Christ has in common with DACA kids - aka dreamers? If the apostle Paul was still alive, he would probably be inspires to say: Oh foolish "American Christians" who has so bewitched you? (Gal. 3:1). I had to replace the word "Galatians" with American Christians. The reason people are so obsessed about getting rid of "dreamer" is not because the dreamers did anything wrong and they obviously did not make a conscious decision to come here illegally as kids and babies. These anti-dreamers club is being led by the son of Klan who is a nationalist and the narcissist founder of the "birther movement." 
Treating DACA - a moral issue like a political football is a shame. No one is advocating illegal immigration and DACA kids are NOT illegal immigrants. Well, unless you believe in your heart that a 6 months old baby can make it across the boarder on its own or come here legally and stay here on an expired visa. If there's any blam…